How to be courageous in relationship

“A true relationship is two imperfect people unwilling to give up on each other.”

It’s a profound—and paradoxical—truth that courage isn’t really courage at all unless there’s some fear attached to it. It is the holiday season and at this time of year, we often have more interaction with friends and family whom we may not connect with as much. Therefore, when our way of being and views is different than others, this can create conflict and challenge, and thus a loss in connection. This post will share with you how to lean in and be courageous to establish closer relationships with loved ones this holiday season and New Year.

Even though most of us deeply want more feelings of connection and intimacy, we do a lot of safe guarding because of fear.

We typically have two main fears in relationship:
1) suffocation
2) abandonment

Most of us fear love as much as we want love.… READ MORE...

Compassionate Boundaries: How to Say No with Heart

How to get your needs met in a way that considers all parties with kindness.

Do you have a pattern of saying yes to others, but then feeling resentful later on? Do you believe that you must come to the aid of others and often give to get?

You are not alone.

Many of us have developed a belief that we must be nice, pleasing, or helpful to the exclusion of our own feelings and needs in order to be worthy of love or appreciation. This belief is, of course, not true and furthermore an impossible goal to meet. When we give to get, we can often end up feeling angry and as a result we don’t create healthy boundaries at home and work.

At the beginning of the year, I was presenting to a group of 100 employees on the topic of increasing resilience to stress. During the seminar, I asked employees what was causing stress in their lives.… READ MORE...

How to regain trust once it has been broken?

Daring to Trust…

In my personal life and the life of my clients and students the theme of this month that is appearing is daring to trust. In the next few weeks, I will be focusing on some writing and personal sharing about…

  • What is trust?
  • How did we develop trust from our early childhood years?
  • How to listen to our feelings and needs to establish trust within ourselves.
  • How to regain trust once its been broken.

Its going to be a juicy and empowering month. I hope what I share is helpful to you. Lets jump into the love pool.

What is Trust?

The American Heritage Dictionary defines trust as “a firm and hopeful reliance on the fidelity, integrity, or ability of a person or thing.”

Trust is therefore a reliance on reliability. The reliability element, however is based on our perception or expectation and may not be forthcoming or lasting when push comes to shove.… READ MORE...